Here are some basic answers to questions you may have.
We might want you to officiate our wedding. What happens next?
If you have decided I might be the best officiant for you, go to the Contact Information page to learn about emailing me. We will set up a casual meeting (approximately 30-45 minutes in length) to meet and to discuss your expectations, timeline, and options.
Afterwards, if you choose to go ahead with my services, you will return a signed agreement along with a 50% deposit. I will then set up at least one additional meeting with you; there may be more than one meeting if you have decided you would like me to be the primary writer of the ceremony. Aside from the day of the wedding, I will also assist in the wedding rehearsal.
We would like you to write most of our ceremony, but there are some pieces we would like to customize. Is that an option?
Definitely! It is so important for this ceremony to reflect the depth and heart of your relationship. While I am happy to write any or all of the ceremony, I definitely want this to be customized in every way you would like. As a result, you will have the opportunity to modify this ceremony for you.
Are you a minister?
While my primary occupations are in counseling and education, I am a licensed minster, which allows me to officiate over weddings in most states, including Colorado.
May we speak with other couples whose weddings you have performed?
Yes! Other couples whose ceremonies I have performed are more than happy to speak with you to share with you their experiences. Please include this request in your email to me.
We are getting married in the mountains, outside of Denver, or even outside of Colorado. Are you willing to travel?
I am happy to travel wherever your wedding will be. Standard fees include anywhere within 25 miles of Denver. Travel costs (gas/plane, accommodations) will be included in the fees if travel beyond 25 miles is required. If the wedding occurs outside of Colorado, I am happy to travel, but each state has particular parameters for wedding certificates, so destination availability may vary.
How long is your ceremony?
While each ceremony is customized from beginning to end for that couple, ceremonies typically last 30 minutes. I am happy to abbreviate or lengthen according to the vision you have your wedding.
Do we have to have a rehearsal?
A wedding rehearsal is completely optional. However, a rehearsal gives time to fine tune the walking, the wedding party arrangement, and the ceremony order of events. It usually reduces jitters and allows the wedding party and family members to know what roles they may be expected to play. Additionally, a rehearsal allows you to extend the experience by setting the tone for the wedding festivities. Many couples find that it gets them away from logistics and lets them know that there will be smooth sailing the next day.
We are a same-sex couple looking to have a wedding ceremony. Will you perform this?
It would be my pleasure! While Colorado still figures out its legislation for paperwork logistics, I would be delighted to officiate a wedding ceremony that honors your love and commitment.
Will there be a way to incorporate our child(ren) into our ceremony?
Yes! There are beautiful ways of incorporating your children into the ceremony. I am happy to consult with you to creatively customize this for you at no additional cost.
One or both of us have been married before. Although we are legally divorced, will you still perform our ceremony?
Of course! I will happily perform your ceremony.
I am not looking for a wedding officiant, but there is another ceremony I would like a minister to help with. Would you be available for this?
I am happy to talk with you about helping with your ceremony if possible. These possibilities may include a celebration of life, a more traditional funeral, a renewal of vows, a child baptism or dedication, an adult dedication, or a number of others. I take pride in creating the words and rituals that will best help you commemorate the significant events of your life.
